tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1750120863647373520.post72371444514297704..comments2023-08-08T11:48:10.725+01:00Comments on swisslet: the elephant won't forget what it's like inside his cage....swisslethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16708248700851998044noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1750120863647373520.post-51981085431576010742006-10-20T13:56:00.000+01:002006-10-20T13:56:00.000+01:00and hen - you are so right about that. I am very ...and hen - you are so right about that. I am very lucky.swisslethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16708248700851998044noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1750120863647373520.post-26800180908884067922006-10-20T13:55:00.000+01:002006-10-20T13:55:00.000+01:00I've spoken to her. It's fine.thanks ever...I've spoken to her. It's fine.<br><br>thanks everyone (and Red - you're a treasure)<br><br>STswisslethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16708248700851998044noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1750120863647373520.post-41514784721497814802006-10-20T12:36:00.000+01:002006-10-20T12:36:00.000+01:00Swissie, if you'rereadibng this at work and st...Swissie, if you'rereadibng this at work and still haven't spoken to C about it, can I suggest you switch the computer off and phone her now. Tell her you love her.<br><br>OK, you had a sudden gut reaction not to want to know. These things happen. But I don't think you'd have posted this if you weren't feeling in some way anxious about it afterwards...<br><br>Yeah, tell her you love her and that even if you go a bit funny sometimes, you still love her. Cos I think you do.red onehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13426191369353602392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1750120863647373520.post-12049457583579707722006-10-20T12:32:00.000+01:002006-10-20T12:32:00.000+01:00I was wondering... How is it going with you shrink...I was wondering... How is it going with you shrink? Perhaps you could discuss this with him/her? I don't think none of us are qualified to give you the right answer.<br><br>Good luck!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1750120863647373520.post-23006407491065638612006-10-20T11:42:00.000+01:002006-10-20T11:42:00.000+01:00I've gone from oversharing to completely refus...I've gone from oversharing to completely refusing to discuss how I feel within the context of relationships. I don't think either state is particularly healthy. For what it's worth, the fact you feel uncomfortable about how you reacted probably means it's worth re-visiting.Cathttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16091141519664411812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1750120863647373520.post-86653064094825511402006-10-20T09:15:00.000+01:002006-10-20T09:15:00.000+01:00I do this all the time : sometimes I'm just no...I do this all the time : sometimes I'm just not mentally up to such a level of interaction, and it's no reflection of my feelings about her or my amount of concern, it's just that my brain can't do it at that point in time.Planet Mehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00149173563766469555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1750120863647373520.post-43782439069117954682006-10-20T03:39:00.000+01:002006-10-20T03:39:00.000+01:00From a guy that's been married 16 years, my ad...From a guy that's been married 16 years, my advice would be that your better off not knowing. Pick and chose the time and place of your battles. If you let her chose, you lose. I know that this sounds contrarian, but, by being a man, your already at a disadvantage.Cody Boneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12743998050700202712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1750120863647373520.post-10773273344113338862006-10-20T03:19:00.000+01:002006-10-20T03:19:00.000+01:00Erm...I don't think it's bad. I think it ...Erm...I don't think it's bad. I think it was a weird situation. If you didn't want to know, you didn't want to know. If we all told each other all the time what they did that made us upset, we'd spend more time fighting than getting along.<br><br>That's just my two cents though...Jennihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16620338910442780375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1750120863647373520.post-68822353494028908092006-10-20T01:40:00.000+01:002006-10-20T01:40:00.000+01:00I think that it is particularly good of her not to...I think that it is particularly good of her not to have let it deteriorate into her being all hurt and confused. Instead, she just let it ride. You're very lucky. A lot of women would have tunred that into a right propper bun fight.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1750120863647373520.post-13594127194333890412006-10-20T01:32:00.000+01:002006-10-20T01:32:00.000+01:00So...there you were telling your wife how well you...So...there you were telling your wife how well you got on with another woman and she gets all snarky...<br><br>Seriously, talk.lithabornhttp://lithaborn.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1750120863647373520.post-39857390501419810122006-10-20T00:37:00.000+01:002006-10-20T00:37:00.000+01:00Girls never mean it when they say "do you wan...Girls never mean it when they say "do you want to know why..." Of COURSE you're supposed to say "yes." But you and C sound awesome together and I'm sure that whatever this is, it's not a big deal.<br><br>love,<br>hHydehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05361348356625074872noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1750120863647373520.post-65697452293248484882006-10-20T00:01:00.000+01:002006-10-20T00:01:00.000+01:00I don't think it's bad, but you might want...I don't think it's bad, but you might want to swallow that gut instinct, if you can and follow Flash's advice. <br><br>Interchanges like this can come back to bite you in the butt when you least expect it.spinsterwitchhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02170310579228627517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1750120863647373520.post-38797024980015618102006-10-19T23:13:00.000+01:002006-10-19T23:13:00.000+01:00"That's bad, right?" -'fraid so ..."That's bad, right?" -<br>'fraid so mate.<br><br>Go & talk to her you daft lummox!Flashhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15147225819226817259noreply@blogger.com