What do you do when someone really irritates you?
Perhaps they've just pulled their car out right in front if you;
Perhaps they've just shut a door in your face;
Maybe they've just insulted you to your face;
Maybe they've just looked at you funny.
What do you do? What do you say?
Is it okay to call them 'an idiot''?
Is it okay to swear? to call them 'a fucking idiot'?
Is that alright with you? You don't need to say it loud enough to be heard. You don't even need to say it under your breath if you don't want to. You can scream it silently in your head if you like. All in capital letters.
Feels better, doesn't it? It's perfectly natural.
How about we add an another adjective for emphasis? How much more satisfying would that be? Look at the state of this guy - he's a disgrace. He's a fat, ugly idiot. Does that flash across your mind? It's not so much an insult as a statement of fact.
You can say that, can't you? That's got to be okay. It's not as though anyone can hear you. It's just an instant knee-jerk response that flashes across your mind. The thought is gone before you even really noticed it was there.
Everyone does that, don't they?
Do you ever add other adjectives? Maybe you've noticed this fat idiot's colour, his religion. Maybe he's black, or sikh, or muslim. Does that ever get added on? Just in that first split-second as you react? Your first instinctive response?
Would that make you a racist? Even if the thought was supressed as soon as your conscious mind realises what it hasn't said? Even if you are horrified by the very thought?
Would that make you a bigot?
Has that ever happened to you? Honestly? Cross your heart and hope to die?
.....Liar. I don't believe you.
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